Over the past year my wife and I have been on an amazing journey to becoming parents. And YES, 2 weeks ago we did indeed become the proud parents of our daughter, Indira. Yes, we’re in baby bliss and there were so many lessons I learned over the past year that I’m going to be sharing with you my friend. One biggy is the consciousness that people have around doing things their way. If you’ve ever brought something innovative to the table, as we did, it’s amazing to see how people project their fears and insecurities onto you. In order to create success we MUST learn to manage FEAR. In fact, it’s impossible to be successful in anything if your fears are not properly managed. In this Vlog I share exactly how that’s done.
This Blog post is my journey over the past year to becoming a 3 time Ironman Finisher, finishing top 10 in one of the most elite age group fields at Ironman and all of the lessons learned from stepping into the unknown and doing what most would consider impossible.
1. If You’re not Growing You’re Dying!
Ironman (IM) is considered the most challenging single day endurance event on earth. Ironman is the grand daddy of triathlon. It’s a 3.8km (2.4 mile) open water swim, 180 km (112 mile) non-drafting bike ride and it finishes up with running a full marathon, 42.2 km (26.2 miles). The most common question I’m asked is “why”? “Sukhi, Why do you race these insanely challenging ultra-endurance events?” The answer to this is quite simple… If you’re not growing, you’re dying and the only way to keep growing in life is to pursue endeavors that force you to get way out of your comfort zone. IM does this for me. If you truly want to know what you’re capable of and who you are this experience will strip you down to your core, remove the veils and all you’ll have left is the beautiful and remarkable YOU!
Before you dive into this blog I just wanted to let you know that it’s on the longer side. Which I believe gives IM the respect it deserves, as it’s so much more than a physical endeavor. So grab yourself a cup of your favorite beverage and sit back for the ride.
2. Every New Beginning Starts with Some other Beginnings End
After underperforming and spending 3 hours in the medical tent on IV’s after Ironman Canada in 2011 from dehydration, I knew I had to take a different approach coming in to this years Ironman. Specifically, I began trading in volume for intensity over the offseason and was really impressed with my fitness improvements. All year I’d spent hours in my “pain” cave doing the most intense interval sessions on my bike trainer. I’d also hit the seawall every morning before the sun came up and run intervals and sprints. I had found a new methodology to training that more closely resembled my days growing up as a hockey player. As much as I know about exercise physiology, the human mind and potential, I still sought out a coach that could take my training to an even greater level. In fact I found two, one from California and the other from upstate NY. A coach can see things that we cannot, they remove the barriers to our blind spots and they help us achieve all our goals with more ease, efficiency and grace. It’s why I’m so big on supporting others as their coach/mentor in life as well. This was the start of something new and extraordinary.
3. 10,000 Hours to Mastery
Over the course of the year in preparation I’d swam over 400 km, I’d cycled over 10, 000 km and I’d ran over 2000 km. All of this mental, physical and spiritual preparation took over 1000 hours over the past year. Here’s an interesting metric for you to consider in everything that you do. It’s believed that it takes 10,000 hours of pure dedication to anything to achieve mastery. I became an endurance athlete in 2006. For the first few years all I did was run. Everything from 5km to 100-mile races. During that time I logged in just over 2000 hours of running. In 2009, I became a triathlete. The only challenge was that I’d never swam, had swim lessons or spent much time in the water my entire life. That’s a problem when you think about getting into the ocean with 3000 other athletes for a 3.8km swim. I also had not ridden a bike in over 17 years. Another small problem when you think about riding 180 km in preparation for a marathon. As a triathlete I’ve logged just over 3000 hours. So as a triathlete I’m just leaving infancy and entering adolescence.
This is such an important benchmark when you begin to think about the things that you pursue and do in your life. So often if we’re not “good” at something we simply give up. Whether it’s a relationship, career, business, entrepreneurial pursuit, education, whatever… So please check in with how many hours you’ve dedicated and give yourself a reality check and break.
Today I still royally suck as a swimmer and cyclist, yet my run is the strongest simply because I’ve logged more time in that discipline.
4. In Life We Never Plan to Fail, but we might Fail to Plan
These were my 2 Week Goals leading up to race day. In order to execute the perfect race I had to execute the perfect preparation. Eating lean and mean, tons of greens and staying well hydrated with alkaline water. Eating 1800 calories/day + replacing calories lost during training. No meals after 7pm, largest meal breakfast, smallest is dinner (pyramid consumption). Prepare all meals for travel and in Florida. (No alcohol for past several months)(My body hasn’t taken any drugs/medicine in over 20 years).
Meditation and visualization everyday for at least 60 minutes rehearsing every situation that could arise race day and seeing/feeling my perfect race. Stretching/body rolling 40-60 minutes daily, full body. Staying off my feet as much as possible and spending quality time with Kate. Lots of laughing, smiling and gratitude for being able to journey through life in this amazing vehicle called my mind and body. I also asked myself from every moment to moment, “Is this thought/activity/behavior fueling me or depleting me”, and then making the appropriate changes. Staying positive, focused and confident.
I arrived in Florida on Tuesday night with Kate, mother in law Debbie, good friend and training partner Lanny Taschuk and his fiancé, Lexi. I laid out all my nutrition, gear and got my bike together. Monday and Tuesday were complete rest days for me. Wednesday morning Lanny and I hit the ocean at the race start and attempted to get a 30-minute swim in. It wasn’t happening, the waves and chop was far too much for us to handle, we were laughing hysterically at how ridiculous it was. We stayed in for 30 minutes and did our best. I also went for an easy 60 minute ride staying below my race pace watts on the course.
Thursday I decided to stay out of the water cause I felt there would be no Return On Investment and instead opted for an easy 30 minute run and ride.
Day Before Race
I packed all my bags, did my last check of my bike and head into Transition. IN & OUT! No messing around there and getting caught up in the nervous energy of it all. There are thousands of people dropping off their bikes and handing in their swim to bike and bike to run bags and the energy of the place is intense and nervous. Athletes, supporting friends and family are all thinking about what the next day will hold. Being who I am and very sensitive to electromagnetic fields and energy I put on my protection and did my admin duites and got outta there ASAP.
Carbohydrate loading began the day before with simple carbs and my cocktail of sports drink (no more water). Friday I ate 3 very large breakfasts, 2 very large lunch’s, snacking throughout the day and a small dinner at 5pm (all of this was simple carbs, 20% protein from nonmeat sources, very little fat, no fiber). By 6pm I was off to my bedroom and visualizing my entire race execution several times. By 8pm it was lights out and bed time.
5. Ready or Not Here Life Comes
I had a great nights sleep and got in a good 4 hours. The rest of the time was spent meditating. I got up at 3:30am and got breakfast ready. I had 3 cups unsweetened organic Applesauce with Vegan Protein powder, banana, and 24 oz of sports drink. I continued to sip my sports drink throughout the entire morning.
I could feel the nervous energy in the air. The waves had settled slightly since Wednesday, but it wasn’t a sheet of glass either. I managed to get in a short warm up and lined myself up 2nd row from the front in the middle of the pack (waves were moving right to left). My last Race Rehearsal in training I swam 3.8 km in 1:00:53. My swim training had crossed a new threshold, this was the fastest I’ve ever swam that distance. On race day I knew the waves and chop would be tougher for me and I was set on not fighting the waves to save energy for the later stages of the race. The gun went off and it was a full on assault. A friend racing said it perfectly in his race description, “It was like the gun went off, everyone turned to the person next to them and starting punching and kicking them… : )” Literally, that’s what it felt like. I’ve been in over a dozen open water swim starts and this was by far the roughest and most challenging. I think the waves crashing on all 3000 of us and slamming us all over the place in the wake of its turbulence was what made it so bad. I got beat up pretty good. Elbows and fists to the head and kicks to the ribs and chest. And this is supposed to be fun???? The wonderful thing about all the work I’ve done on myself and mental preparation was that I remained calm the entire time and never lost myself. I focused on counting my strokes, “1, 2, stretch…1, 2, stretch…” This is my 3 stroke breathing rhythm and I made sure I had a steady exhalation to remain calm.
6. Never Let the Circumstances Outside You Dictate the State Within You
I kept turning my arms over focused on my form and began to settle in after 1300 meters, yes it took a while. During the second lap I was with a group of people and was not doing much sighting, until I had a gut feeling we were way off course. I looked up and we were, swimming 90 degrees from the direction we should have been. I grabbed the leg of one swimmer close to me, he looked at me as if he was going to punch me out and then I pointed to the TYR exit chute and he realized my intention and gave me the thumbs up and we swam in together. The rest of that group continued to swim off course. My guess is that I lost a few minutes over this. This was my worst swim in an IM, but it didn’t phase me at all. I didn’t burn much energy and was ready to hit the bike.
Swim Time: 1:10 Overall Rank: 579 Div. Rank: 86
Goal: IN & OUT… ASAP!
The Transition from swim to bike was the longest distance I’d ever seen. We had to run a good distance out of the shallow water and then hit the sandy beach. The beach was long and we had to run through a corridor of the host hotel and grab our bike gear bags. From there we had to run into the hotel where the change area was. My wetsuit got stuck on my wrist and I needed a wetsuit stripper to help with that. I finally got it off… whew! T1 was a total zoo, bodies were everywhere scrambling as I was doing my best to navigate through them. As I was running into the change area I knew I wouldn’t need my gloves and arm warmers as temperatures were warm. I threw on shades and helmet and ran with my cycling shoes in hand. From here I had to run back out of the hotel, through a long transition area to get to where my bike was racked. Transitions are free time so I try to keep it simple and clean. Because the run through T1 was so long I decided that I could run faster and safer bare foot. I got to my bike, which was close to T1 exit and put on my shoes there and then made my way to the mount line.
T1 Time: 4:59
7. The Journey of 140.6 Miles Begins With One Step at a Time.
I was very vigilant early on the bike as the mount line and first few miles of the ride are danger zones. This is where accidents happen. Athletes are dizzy from the swim, they’re panicking, they’re simply not themselves. I Velcro my shoes, set my Garmin 910xt and settled in to my nutrition plan within the first 10 minutes. 325-350 calories/hour from Perform, Bonk Breakers, Cliff Blocks and Honey Stingers and an additional 700mg of Na/hour from Salt tabs, NO water. Most athletes make this mistake. They drink water to hydrate but don’t realize their causing hyponatremia. My bike had a very clean set up with a speed fill for perform and solid nutrition/salt tabs in my aero bento and drop bag.
My goal on the bike was patience, persistence and steady power! I took it easy during the first 20 miles, but something appeared to be wrong with my power meter reading. It was way too low. This past year I invested in a power meter for my bike, which essentially measures how much force I’m putting on the pedals. I knew exactly where my power watts had to be to execute my perfect 180 km ride. When we had a slight incline on the road I tested this to spike my watts and something was definitely wrong. Yikes! Yes, for the first time my power meter decided to play games with me race day.
8. In Life We Must Focus on the Process, Not the Outcome, Because the Outcome is a Metric in Which We Have No Control Over
I was focused on the process of the ride, not the outcome. The process lives in the here and now and you have direct control over it. The outcome does not exist because it’s somewhere in the future and therefore you have no direct control over it. When you focus on the process the outcome takes care of itself. With no power meter I delved into my data bank of spreadsheets in my head. In life we never plan to fail, but we may fail to plan. Power meter or not, I was still going to race my race and focus on every pedal stroke. I train with Heart Rate (HR) occasionally, but HR is an indirect measure of work that may or may not be reliable. The only objective info I had now was speed and cadence. Yet I know that the most precise metric for racing is perceived exertion (RPE). Yet the challenge with it is that it’s a very delicate and subtle measure that must be developed with experience by each athlete and their body. Knowing this I still wanted to ride at my goal watts so I went back to my Race Rehearsal, which I did 3 weeks before race day on similar terrain at home. During that Race Rehearsal I rode the entire 180km as if it was race day and I memorized all the metrics, Speed, cadence, power output. I found that for the first 40 miles I was doing great and staying right around 22MPH and was getting in lots of calories. When I feel good I don’t push the pace, I simply eat/drink more. By mile 43 I began to hit a low point. Not sure why, but holding this effort became increasingly difficult. I went through my systems review, nutrition and hydration plan and it all seemed great. So I just kept on working.
During the race I thought I was going to see large draft packs (cheating) and penalty tents full of people, but I didn’t see any. From my lens it was a very clean race (although I heard otherwise after the race). As a result, I never had a chance to get any “free” speed or legal draft. It was a full on Time Trial; me, myself and I working my way through the field passing people all day… the way I like it. I continued to work and kept reminding myself “this will pass…. This will pass… just stick to the plan”. 1, hour, 2 hours, 3 hours, creeping up on 4 hours and I still felt like crap… WTF???
9. In Life You Can Be Driven by Your Values or Your Emotions
In Beyond Body Beyond Mind I get into this concept with more detail. Here’s the short version… When you’re up your emotions fuel you, when you’re down you’re emotions deplete you. If you live this way you’re a disempowered person because it’s impossible to always be up. An empowered person is driven by their values regardless of what their emotions are telling them. There are times we must listen to our emotions and there are times we must ignore them, my book elaborates on this.
I stuck to my values, “this is Ironman keep working away this will pass in time”… I kept asking the universe for support, a sign, a message, a crack on the road, anything… It was mile 90ish and an athlete rode up to me and I saw his race kit and recognized him. It was a guy on my race team from NY named John and he was hammering looking very strong. I told him I’d been in a low spot for the past 50 miles… He lifted me up by saying, “Well, the runs just around the corner and that’s your thing…!” We never know how far reaching something we may say will affect the life of another. John was right, I was doing my best to hold RPE at 70-75%, I’d stuck to my nutrition plan perfectly and I was less than 20 miles to running a marathon, and that’s “my thing”. John lifted me right up, A big Thank-you to you John! I stopped thinking about how I was feeling and switched gears to how I was going to execute the run. At the finish line I had a great conversation with John and he told me that when we rode together he was at a low point too, but then he thought, “Shit, I’m riding with Sukhi and he’s smoking fast, I’m having the ride of my life here”, which he did also setting a new personal record. So I was able to lift him as well, how cool? A symbiotic dynamic!
Ironically by the time I hit mile 105 I was feeling fantastic and ready to hit T2. I stepped out of my pedals at mile 110 and stood up on the bike opening up my torso, hips and stretching my calves, hamstrings and glutes. Amazing how reliable perceived exertion can be… and how perfect I rode 180km based on feel, despite feeling like crap for 3 hours. My time for my race rehearsal 3 weeks ago was 5:09, my bike split at this IM was exactly 5:09. Amazing! So I knew I rode my perfect ride. It was my perfect “should” ride even though my sub 5 hour “could” ride was possible (followed by a crappy run). I was now set up for the perfect run and rode this bike split 29 minutes faster than my previous Personal Record (PR). I’d passed 334 athletes on the ride.
Bike Time: 5:09 Race Time: 6:24 Overall Rank: 245 Div Rank: 38
I rode up to the dismount line and stepped off my bike barefoot. The first few steps into T2 will tell a thousand tales for me. My legs felt light and strong. I was smiling ear-to-ear and ready to rock this marathon with perfect execution. I got my bag, dumped it, ripped off my helmet and put socks and shoes on and ran out with my visor and salt tabs in hand.
T2 Time: 2:28
Although I’m a former hockey player I love to run. Marathons and Ultra-marathons got me into triathlon and it’s my strongest discipline. Over the past year I’d been working hard to better execute during the marathon of Ironman. I’d PR’d a Half IM this summer with a 1:26 run split, but my speed gains got to my head and I stopped listening to my body. A classic example of letting my ego get to me. Which’s also another great example of when we let our emotions which are truly an addiction to a strong dopamine release dictate the show. We must step into power!
10. IN-JURY means the JURY is IN.
An ache, pain, low energy, frustration, anger, sadness, illness, disease of the mind or body is an Injury. And it’s time for the JURY to come IN and see where you’ve disconnected. In July my run paces were off the charts and all I kept thinking about was how I was going to crush the marathon at Ironman this year. Yes, when I focused on outcome, not process, the universe put me in my place and forced me to call in my JURY. After a few races this past summer that were perfectly placed to build into my Ironman training I could barely walk 10 ten steps without having lighting bolt pain shoot up my left shin/calf. I’d crossed the training line and had a stress fracture. I was sidelined for 9 weeks with absolutely no running during the last 14 weeks leading up to IM. When I began running again I couldn’t do any speed work as it still created discomfort and healing wasn’t complete. So I ran easy paces in the 8:00min/mile range. But as the weeks progressed I was able to begin doing some sub 7min/mile runs. Which was almost 2 minutes slower than what I was doing this summer. I knew I’d be able to complete the marathon at Ironman, I just had no idea what my legs could handle because I hadn’t put in the proper run training. My leg was 80-85% come race day. It was such a wonderful summer healing this injury and learning so much more about myself, I’m so grateful for the experience.
11. Work with an Expert
This past summer I’d worked with many docs, healers and did tons of personal work. I’d worked with a friend who’s a Master NLP practitioner recently to help me mentally through the run because I knew it wasn’t going to be pretty. His name is Harry Nichols and he’s awesome. I had mental words flashing through my mind and my main mantra was “the closer I am the stronger I feel, stronger and stronger, stronger and stronger, find that edge and ride it, Let’s do this… “
When I race it’s never a question of “if” it’s a question of “when”. “When” will I have to go to that dark place within myself to find that special something to keep me driving forward in the face of adversity? Perhaps it’s because I have a dark past, perhaps it’s because I was raised on the other side of the tracks, yet I welcome this place of discomfort and it’s truly the “why” of my racing. Every time I go to that place I come out a different human being on the other side. That finish creates the space for a brand new beginning.
My run goals were again to focus on process not results, ignore what everyone else is doing, run the entire marathon, but walk the aid stations to get in optimal nutrition (Perform) and stay cool (ice water/ice), run the tangents, sling shot around corners, high cadence (92), light on feet driving forward at the hips, staying tall, shoulders down and relaxed and being in control, pain and pace management.
I felt great. The pace was easy. While running my own race I take inventory of those around me. I rarely get passed during the run and in the first 6 miles 2 men passed me. I took note of their race kits and would use this as fuel for the later stages of the race. First 6 miles I averaged 7:40min/mile, not crazy fast but respectable. Again, because I felt so great I took in lots of perform (1.5-2 cups at every mile) and maintained 600mg/sodium/hr.
Making my way back to the start line to finish the first loop I noticed there was a slight head wind and I had to dial up my effort to hold pace. By mile 9 I knew I was in the middle of a race and I was going to have to call upon my mental reserves soon. My body was getting tight especially in my oblique’s and calves. When my calves get tight during a race I know I’m riding the edge of a pace that may be too fast given the training I’ve put in. It was a lot worse in my left injured leg. Sticking to my fuel and race plan I didn’t feel I should adjust anything yet. Again I held pace and hit the half way point of the run in an 1 hour 40’ish minutes.
At half way I grabbed my special needs bag and had some cliff blocks (200 calories) and added more salt tabs to my container in my pocket. It was getting tough to hold pace once I left the high energy area of the start line and was making my way back out for the last loop. Again I held pace through mile 15, 16, 17 and 18. But the pain in my calves was becoming extreme, I was entering my dark zone. It literally felt like someone was taking an icepic and stabbing me in my calf. So I took an extra 10 seconds at each of these aid stations doubling up on my nutrition (2 performs, 1 coke, 2 salt tabs every mile) (yes, when I race I drink coke – simple sugar, caffeine, pretty much like nitrous oxide, then I vomit at the finish line getting rid of it… : ).
Most of us have experienced that sensation when the bottom of the arch of our feet spasms and we’re literally laying on the floor in a fetal position waiting for the cramp to subside. It was clear to me that I hadn’t put in the mileage and that 9-week hiatus from running had caught up to me. Specifically, I’d missed 53 run workouts leading up to this race; my run fitness was weak. Mentally I was strong and focused, but my calf was a short step from cramping up the way I explained above. Every cell in my calf was screaming at me to walk so I knew I couldn’t because if I did I may never start running again. Instead of walking through aid stations I shuffled now. I was focused on perfect running form and exaggerating the swing in my arms to drive forward through the hips. This helped until mile 24. My pace had slowed slightly but I was still working my way through the field and getting more energy as I passed people. There was only 1 man early in the day that passed me that I hadn’t caught yet. I was looking for him, he had to be somewhere close. That motivation and connecting to that place inside myself kept me running hard.
12. The Only Way to Know What’s Possible is to Step into the Impossible.
Just after mile 24 it happened. Lightning bolt pain shooting up from my left lower leg and calf, my nightmare came true. That debilitating spasm that lasts for a few seconds under our feet crept into my calf and I was forced to stop. I collapsed to my knees and lay on all fours on the ground grimacing. Eventually, I took 2 trigger point contacts to release the spasm. After a few seconds, Nothing! The pain deepened. I pulled out my salt tabs and took in 5 tabs (over 1500mg/Na). The pain of the spasm was so intense I began punching my left calf with my right fist. I yelled at it, “You give me 2 more F**kin miles”. After laying on the ground there for 40’ish seconds the spasm backed off slightly, the only way to know what’s possible is to step into the impossible. I started running again but changing my running gait so I was only running on my heels because that calf was done (I had to stay off the balls of my feet otherwise it would spasm again). All I kept thinking was that I was not going to walk the last 2 miles. I was conjuring up every last bit of inspiration from within to keep driving forward. One step at a time the pain became slightly more intense again. That lasted several minutes and I was able to pass the one gentleman that overtook me early during the race. With 1 mile left to go the intensity of the cramp heightened again, but I didn’t stop. I dug deep, took every salt tab I had left (8’ish thanks to my special needs) and I took them all… : ) Over 2400mg/Na.
By the time I was less than half a mile from the finish I was on pure adrenalin. I decided to finally look at where I was in the race. Up until this point I had no idea because I was just focused on the process not the outcome, because you can’t control outcome. My watch said 9:50’ish and I was so excited. Having stopped with the cramp and changing my running gait over the last 2 miles I ended up slowing down and lost a couple minutes compared to my pace over the first 24 miles. My overall run pace was 7:2xmin/miles, with walking the aid stations and stopping my overall run race pace for the marathon was 7:54min/miles. Since the swim I worked my way through the field passing 470 athletes and having the race of my life.
Marathon Run Time: 3:27 Race Time: 9:54 Overall Rank: 109 Div Rank: 10
13. You Never Know What’s Happening On the Journey in Front of You, so NEVER Give Up!
After the race I learned that when my leg had a spasm at mile 24 I was in 12th place. If I knew that I may have given up. I only had 2 miles to run. But I kept running as best I could and ran my way into the top 10 over the last 2 miles edging 11th place by 19 seconds and 12th place by 29 seconds.
I showed up at this race 80% of my best due to an injury and lack of run training. Over past Ironman races I’d shown up 100%, but I was only able to execute at 70%. Even though I was only 80% this day I executed 100% of that 80% and had the race and experience of my life. My run split was 12 minutes faster than last year. I joined the elite club of sub 10 hour IM finishers. My coach told me 2 hours after the race that I’d finished 10th in the fastest age group in IM. He said I’d arrived and that the field ahead of me were the top AG in the sport and I was now in Elite IM company. I was speechless.
14. Finding FLOW
I was so excited to have had this breakthrough race and shave 35 minutes off my Ironman Personal Record. It was a tough day and it always will be. Today my racing self honored my training self by doing my absolute best and never giving up in the face of adversity. It’s what we do in those moments that define who are and what we’re capable of. Throughout the entire day I never looked at a single calf (shows peoples age group division) or even thought about what place I was in. When I focus on the process and pace, the place takes care of itself.
I literally spent the majority of these 9 hours in a state of thoughtlessness. Which means that I never gave many thoughts an emotional meaning or charge. It’s a state I call present time consciousness. Where there is no past, no future and the only thing that’s occupying your conscious awareness is this present moment. This is FLOW and when we step into that state we’re pouring 100% of who we are into that moment. All the preparation over the past year allowed me to step into this state of flow and execute 100%. When we find FLOW we find ourselves, it’s where inspiration meets motivation and extraordinary ensues.
The next racing adventure for me is Ironman Canada 2013 on the inaugural new Whistler Course in August!
Thanks for reading, please post ALL your comments below and what you’ve taken from this. We can always learn from others and I’d love to know how this has touched you.
Life just keeps getting better my friend!
For you it may not be Ironman, but I invite you to find your edge and ride it!
Did you know that you’re only a short step away from doing something so simple, yet profound.
It’s true! A few small daily rituals practiced day in and day out will stack up over time and produce
achievements in your life far beyond anything you could have logically planned.
This VLOG is all about the little things. It’s exactly what I did at this spiritual retreat centre
in Mexico for the past 10 days.
To Your Mastery,
You mean I shouldn’t focus on my dreams?
Last week I was hanging out with a friend and got into a great jamming session about fulfilling our dreams. Did you know that by focusing on your life’s dreams you are actually holding yourself back and repelling them? Yes, that’s right. If you are constantly focusing on your dreams you will NEVER attain them. Surprised?
You might be thinking… WTF, just like my buddy. Well, I too was shocked to learn that most people do not understand this. This may go against conventional thinking yet I know it’s the truth as I’ve seen it replicated so many times. You cannot control the results in your life, so focusing on something that you can’t control disempowers you. Now I don’t want to take the wind out of your sails so keep reading.
What you must do is have a dream, goal or result in mind. Write it down, envision it and affirm it and then let it go. Yup that’s right, let it go. I help people go through a daily process to manifest their desires with my 5 manifestation vids on the right, so if that’s what you’re looking for opt in for those right now, they’re awesome. In this post I want you to understand how important it is to focus on the things that you can control.
With the end goal, result or dream in mind it must be let go to the universe. Cause that’s who needs to know about it. You on the other hand must stay in a place of allowance by persistently focusing on doing the work and mastering the tasks at hand that will bring you closer to the attainment of those end results. You see, if you simply focus on the dream you are stepping out of this physical world and entering the etheric space of possibility, cool to do! Yet you must step back into the physical world and focus on tangible things you can control to allow the physical and etheric worlds to collide. In other words, that collision = the fulfillment of your dreams, goals and end results. So here’s 4 ways to get your mental muscles strong and lean so you’re focusing on the right things within your locus of control.
Let the Dreams Unfold
1. Create an Inspired Climate
When you live in a space of inspiration your focus will be centred on all the processes, action steps, activities that you can do right now. Rather than having lucid thoughts about the future you’re inspired action creates a new resonance and tone from within as your being completely present. You begin to become the person that has achieved those dreams and results. So set some time aside to create and bask in a space that allows you to be fully present and focused on the work that you can do right now. John Wooden, a legendary basketball coach, said “Success is knowing that you did your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming”.
2. Be with the Right Peeps
You are an average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Average out all of their health, wealth and happiness and you are essentially looking in the mirror. Again, you can control who you spend your time with. It’s your life so it’s your choice. When I was 18 years old I said “Good Bye” to a life and every person I knew and started life over from scratch. Possibly one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do in my life. It was a lonely dark journey for many years. Yet, to make room for something new I had to let go of the old. Aligned peeps will keep you focused on the tasks at hand, put more wind into your sails so you’re inspired to do the work, endure the challenges and maintain your sanity… : )
3. Embrace Challenges
The challenges in your life are nothing more than opportunities in disguise. The universe is simply challenging you to step up to see if your worthy of your grand cause and dreams. Are you up for the challenge? It doesn’t matter what you have done or haven’t done, said, or haven’t said, you are worthy of your fullest expression of life. Overcoming harsh childhoods, illness, disease, abuse, poverty, war, or any other life crisis actually heightens your ability to achieve your wildest dreams. We have all had challenges, been tormented by them and overcome and grown immensely because of their gift. We can’t always control what life throws at us yet we can control how we respond. To increase the expression of my life I actually seek out more and more challenging opportunities and I invite you to do the same. PS: It’s worth the ride!
4. Be Extraordinary
You will become the person you are being day in and day out. Every single day you have the opportunity to just get things done or to pour every ounce of your heart into everything you do. That is the difference between ordinary and extraordinary. As a friend, parent, partner, colleague, student, child or any other title you have the opportunity to stand out and show the universe who you truly are. You are extraordinary and I assure you that to achieve your wildest dreams only your most extraordinary efforts day in and day out will allow you to become the person worthy of achieving them. So why not develop an appetite for success by taking pride in the smallest details of your daily efforts and rituals. They will pay enormous dividends… the fulfillment of your wildest dreams!
So once you have your dreams and goals in mind let them sail away into the abyss of the universe. Great! Now you can stop focusing on them, come back to the reality of today and start focusing on the things you can control by practicing the 4 tips above. You are now set on the collision course of your present and future self.
To Your Mastery,
Oh Yes, and if you have any questions or comments please leave them below. We’ll connect soon!
Ever get up feeling crabby, pissed off, sad or just off? Well, if you’re not an Alien from another planet I know you answered with an emphatic “YES”. We all have, and it happens to the best and worst of us. So what’s the scoop, I’m taking my vitamins saying my prayers and yet I still have the occasional, “Man, I feel like shit today”? Why does life deliver melons when we’re looking for jewels?
Well I wish I could answer that with pure certainty, but the reality is we have over 4600 human emotions that all of us will oscillate through each and every day. I will feel awesome and crappy, connected and fragmented, happy and sad, on fire and lethargic, the list goes on and on. Years ago I decided to screw this roller coaster of emotions and start creating habits and rituals that would allow me to soar through the “dark” parts of the day and bask in the “light”.
Sound Cool? It’s Super Cool! So Check this out. Rather than letting my days kick my ass and dictate how I feel, I take full control with morning rituals.
1. GRATITUDE – After my new Zen Alarm Clock iPhone App, blissfully wakes me up (5am ish), I roll over, let my feet hit the floor and sit at the edge of my bed. Massaging my hands through my hair, breaking a huge smile, I thank the universe for another day to have a crack at this thing called life. I bring that deep sense of Gratitude into as many cells before I make my way to the can.
2. EXERCISE – Within the first half hour of waking I will start my training. We are physical beings and we must move our bodies everyday to Be in our Power Zone. Depending on the day this will last anywhere from 1 to 9 hours (Remember I’m one of those illogical Ultra-endurance athletes). Now knowing that life might try to kick my butt today, I decide to kick my own ass instead with killer, gut wrenching workouts. For me it’s run, bike, swim, core or resistance training and I literally push my mind and body so far out of my comfort zone (not injuring myself of course) that anything life throws at me will feel like a piece of cake.
3. MEDITATION – After I train I fuel, clean and dress for the day and then will get “Blissed out”. I first began meditating when I was 15 years old and I love it. Our minds will control us if we do not control it. It is one of the most powerful resources we have and meditation has allowed me to have so much control over my mind. This will last anywhere from 5 minutes to 2 hours, depending on the day and my schedule.
4. VISUALIZATION – Now that my mind is empty and a clean slate I move into visualizing some area of my life or day. It will be one or several areas of my Master Your Life Wheel. I create clear conscious intentions with as little doubt or fear as possible. Once I see it in my minds eye, I then drop into my heart and begin to feel the emotions of these powerful intentions.
5. JOURNALLING – My last ritual is to make some posts in my journal after I’m done visualizing. There’s no right or wrong here. The simple act of writing things down makes a physical proclamation to the world saying, “Hey universe, I’m not messing around here, let’s hook this up”.
Once my 5 rituals are complete I’m off to paint on the canvas of life. By starting my days like this I spend way more time feeling awesome, productive and purposeful than not. Sure some days will be better than others because that’s the natural ebb and flow of life. But you will always be living much closer to the purposeful, powerful, conscious creator that you are by practicing these rituals daily.
Would love to know if these 5 rituals are jiving with you or not? Or if you have any of your own that I might be able to add to mine. As always, if you like… “like” me, and leave me a comment whether you’re feeling the love or not.
To Your Mastery,
What I have found journeying through life, my studies and working with great masters is that we can increase the probability of both inner and outer abundance, which leads to improving your quality of life! In other words:
Inner Fulfillment + Outer Success = Mastery!
Doesn’t that equation look great! How the heck does one achieve this?
In this post I am briefly outlining all 10 areas of the Master Your Life wheel. You will discover how important they all are and how they are each connected to one another. You will discover as you explore all the strategies, content and videos on this site that you will become more conscious of every category and realize how they will all contribute to and transform your life. The purpose of this post is to simply define all ten areas and give you a brief overview. (My purpose in all that I do over the weeks, months and years ahead is to provide you with the strategies to achieve this.)
- Spiritual – This is your source, your power supply, inspiration and reason for being. Sound deep? It doesn’t have to be. This can be whatever you make of it. These are the reasons your feet hit the floor each morning, why you put a smile on your face and what drives you through life. This is an inside job, it’s the capacity of your human will and mark my word it is the most powerful force you have. It’s the same power supply that created you from 2 little cells. FYI: It never left you when you were born either and it’s still there today, you just need to access it!
- Finances – Do you have “mucho dinero”? This is the amount of dollars you can muster up, right now, this second, TODAY! All the assets you have (which includes cash) minus all your liabilities equals your net worth. The greater your net worth the more CHOICES you have in life. Cultural domestication is misleading, suggesting that the more money you have the happier you will become. Sorry, only by Mastering Your Life will you do that. Remember this: the amount of money you have = the number of choices you can make! End of story!
- Family – Yes as much as some of them may push your buttons, they are an essential ingredient for your life. Family can extend beyond your bloodline, however, some of the greatest gifts and lessons in your life will be learned from within your family bloodline or people you live with. Do you have loving relationships with your family? Your family can produce the greatest sources of joy, amazing memories, and a lifetime of physical and emotional pleasures. Getting crystal clear on creating extraordinary family dynamics will transform your quality of life.
- Vocation – Each and every person in this world has been given unique gifts and talents. If you do not express your gifts to the world your song will be lost forever. That would be a shame! Your vocation is how you express your talents and gifts to the world in your chosen career or discipline in life. Do you spend every day in your vocation? If you do, you can change the word from “work” to “play” and congratulations you are a part of an elite few. As one of my mentors taught me, “When you find your vocation, life becomes an endless vacation”!
- Social – Humans are social creatures. You need to be around other people, places and things. This is how you relate to everyone and all the things around you. In a healthy social dynamic there is a constant ebb and flow of giving and taking within all things. Contribution, connection and growth are the natural by-products of this realm.
- Intelligence – Use it or lose it baby! Yup, if you are not challenging your intellect your brain and mind will go to mush. I am a huge advocate of education. Now you don’t have to be formally in school to get an education. My classroom today is the school of life; in fact I’m a dedicated student of life. No matter what, never stop learning. Similar to exercising a muscle you must exercise your mind everyday so it remains sharp, on purpose and creative.
- Emotions – Yes, we all have them and they affect us everyday throughout our lives. If it’s healthy with the right outlook it fuels us to our bigger selves and contributes to every other area of our life in a meaningful way. On the flipside emotional distress can impact your relationships, social life, finances and even lead to illness or disease. Being more conscious of your emotional state and having the strategies to change them when you’re in a funk will pay huge dividends to your quality of life.
- Physical – Your body and health is the vehicle you have been given so you can fully experience life. It is your house, if you do not take care of it where will you live? Treat your body like a prized racehorse and it will take you on grand adventures with endless energy, vitality and performance. You’ll learn the strategies that will crush any roadblocks and strengthen your commitments to get you to exactly where you want to be and improve your quality of life.
- Character – This is the very foundation of who you are as a human being. You character controls who you are being and how you handle the temptations and challenges of life. It sets your limits of what you are capable of and if you have the inner drive and strength to transcend them. Your character will define who you are being in every area of your life. Defining the person you need to become to live the life you deserve will transform your virtues into habits.
- Quality of Life – Last, but certainly not least. What surroundings make you thrive? What would you like to experience? What would you like to own? These answers can transform your life in important and unintended ways. Your quality of life is exactly that… the degree to which you love or hate your life. This will affect every area of your life and change who you are as a human being.
The interesting thing about life is that you get out of it exactly what you put into it. There is always an equal exchange and you are in control as the driver. Now that you are aware of all 10 categories of your life you may know where you are strong and where you have some work to improve your quality of life. The rewards will be enormous when you fully decide to Master Your Life.
I would love to know where you are thriving and where you need some support. Leave a comment below and share the love with your friends. Welcome to THE ride of a lifetime.